I have for some time suspected that the folks who have always had mobile phones interact with the world differently than I do.
When I suggested last semester, for example, that it was possible to live without a cell phone, one of my students became incensed. I mean red faced, angry, and very loud. The idea of living that way was such an anathema to him that the very idea made him enraged.
I was in line at Starbucks last week, fairly early in the morning and the young woman ahead of me said (into her phone): “I just got up. I’m at Starbucks and am going to have a frappucino.”
While there’s nothing wrong with that per se, it struck me as odd. Why not go to Starbucks and have the frappucino and JUST NOT TELL ANYONE?
Ralph Waldo Emerson once said, “In silence we must wrap much of our life, because it is too fine for speech, because also we cannot explain it to others, and because somewhat we cannot yet understand.” The woman in Starbucks and many of her generation believe just the opposite. Don’t wrap up lives in silence. Narrate them. Tell everyone you know everything you’re doing every moment of every day.
This afternoon, I passed a young woman on campus who said into her phone, “I’m really thirsty. Should I get something to drink?” I wanted to stop her, hold her by both shoulders and say, “Yes you should get something to drink if you’re thirsty. The more important thing, though, is to be able to make that decision on you own without your phone.”
Here’s the thing. My academic field has taught me to believe that the stories we tell have great meaning about who we are as individuals and who we are as a culture. To borrow from another academic field, I also think, in this context, about phonemes. Those are the smallest discreet sound changes that indicate shifts in meaning. Change the c in cat to an h and you have the new sound and a new meaning. Folklorists have a similar idea. One way to look at stories, is to look for something called motifs. Motifs are the plot or character elements in a story that are unique. The glass slippers in Cinderella are a motif.
These non-stories aren’t really stories at all, then. They’re non-motifs strung together to fill the silence. Is there meaning? I can’t say.
So here’s my advice to the cell phone over-users. Go forth and live. No need to narrate while doing so.
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